Band-Aid

So, I had not intended for there to be such a delay between my first post and then a follow-up. Just so much material, and I really had no idea where I wanted to start. But as fate would have it...the demise of another relationship in my circle of friends had me recycling and revising some thoughts as I counseled my friend.


So, step by step. Let me explain the term Band-Aid...comparing that bad (or perceived bad) relationship like that band-aid you just absolutely dread removing. This is truly the best comparison, because the band aid that is removed in one quick motion, has that initial pain and discomfort but it subsides quickly. The band aid that is just left to its own devices (a few showers) becomes glued on, and still hurts when removed, but then in addition leaves that gooey residue that you have to sit and pick at. That attracts dirt, sticks to your clothes...I could go on and on...but thanks to Johnson & Johnson I believe that we are all familiar with this process.


Ultimately, the advice here : RIP THE BAND-AID OFF! You know it is going to hurt but butter to rip it off quickly and have it done than to peel slowly, extending the unnecessary agony beyond a reasonable timeline. Don't delay...or "wean" off a person just delaying the inevitable. If this person doesn't make you go "WOW" anymore; or not able to give you what you need; don't waste your time or their time any longer. Life is truly too short to not drive on and pursue what makes you happy.


Now, this is much easier said than done when there is not "straw that broke the camels back" action or anything specific to draw on except for maybe not providing your required emotional fulfillment. In those cases, it can be a lot more emotional. Because there is nothing wrong with this person, but you are rational enough to know that you need to move on. Again, Band-Aid and know that if this person is agonizing at your departure and tells you so, but things are not going to change. Remember this mantra - manipulation. This person is being manipulative..and abuses your affection in that passive aggressive way.


Whew...so there is that. Once the Band-Aid is removed...Phase 1 is about to begin! Time to shape up...and move up!