It occurred to me that the principal behind band aid is often more difficult than a few words. But ultimately the goal is to be finished. Don't maintain simply a phsyical relationship. And if you want to have a successful friendship, probably a little break is a good thing. Often it is difficult if there is no break to lay out new guidelines to the new path of your relationship.
This writer in particular theorized Band Aid when I was divorcing my ex husband. And he left the house and once it was determined reconciliation couldn't be met; I took the steps necessary to see to it that it was absolutely ended.
More recently I find myself in the similar situation. Though no legal; financial; nor residential ties to break. This time, it feels more of an emotional tie. And I don't know if perhaps that is because there was more of a physical attraction or perhaps just because I rebuilt my heart; for it to be broken. Whatever the case may be. My band-aid action took two tries.
And what finally assisted was distraction. And it reminded me that I had a similar distraction when I broke from my marriage. And while I don't condone cheating WHAT SO EVER. Totally a disrespectful thing to do - in my opinion. I began a flirtation to help break emotionally from a situation that was no good. Because the distraction helps. The new-ness soothes. The fun helps you forget and move on.
So...to anyone finding it difficult..there is my advice. Find a distraction. Doesn't have to be a person. Could be the gym...could be a new organization...activity...but Distraction.
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